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Friend Makin’ Monday: An Alternate Life

Wow, what a weekend! How were all of yours? September is my whirlwind month of celebration after celebration, rendering my wallet empty and begging for mercy. My older brother’s, mother’s, and hubby’s birthdays are all one week apart, and that’s only my immediate family! Many of my friends have September birthdays as well, which leads me to the conclusion that the December holidays are the perfect for a, um…”snuggle”. :\

Anyhow, celebration weekend #1 concluded this weekend, and now I’m ready to get back into the groove of a work week, and consequently, blogging. (Week 2 of a failed every-day blog posting attempt. *sigh* This week’s a new week and a new opportunity, I suppose.) Let’s kick it off with another round of Friend Makin’ Monday!
Since a lot of the questions deal with “if you were…etc.”, I’ve titled this one:

An Alternate Life

If you’ve taken part in Friend Makin Mondays before then you are familiar with the rules. If you’re new, please take a momentto answer this week’s question on your own blog then add your link in the comments section at Losing Weight and Having Fun so we can all see your FMM questions and answers. Please invite your blog readers to add their links here too soeveryone has to opportunity to be seen. The idea is to connect with other awesome bloggers so take a moment to read andcomment on a couple of other posts. I would love some topic/question suggestions from all of you, please email your ideas tome sarah@losingweightandhavingfun.com Thanks This week’s random questions come from Tyra at Random Acts of Snark.Thanks Tyra.
1. If you were a vegetable, what vegetable would you be? I’d say asparagus…sometimes tough on the outside and I’m good after I’m warmed up. And that I tend to be better when I’ve had time holing up somewhere out of the sun (like white asparagus).
2. If you woke up tomorrow as an animal, what animal would you choose to be and why? I’d like to be a dolphin. They seem so happy and playful, and they can swim, which I can’t do very well. Though I’d like to go without the whole accidental being caught in a net thing.
3. If you could live anywhere on this planet, and take everything that you love with you, where would you choose to live? Tell the group about your choice. You know, I took one of those random “where should you live/go on vacation” quizzes online and I got Helsinki, Finland, and after doing some research on it, I’d have to agree. The skyline is beautiful, it seems there’s something for everyone there, they have gorgeous winter scenery, and the national library. Guys, I could probably spend my entire life just in this library alone:
4. What favorite color are you and how does being that color make you feel? I’ve been obsessed with purple for a really long time. I always feel more confident when I’m wearing the right shade of purple for me, which is close to a rich blue-violet. I also like lavender, which makes me feel feminine but not overtly so.
5. If you could choose an imaginary friend, who would you choose and why? I never knew there were imaginary friends to “choose” from; I always thought they were all unique and of your own imagination and for you only. Intriguing. Is there an Island of Imaginary Friends somewhere? 🙂 I remember in junior high I made up an imaginary friend (does that make sense?)–not a “real” imaginary friend, but more of a parody of an imaginary friend, if you will. My friend’s parody imaginary friend was a leprechaun named Marty that she kept in her shoe, so in turn I had a pixie on my shoulder named Love, who was a cheerleader that bopped people on the nose whenever they made fun of me. It was a riot. I had great fun doing fake-serious Marty/Love skits with my friend.
6. If you could sit on a bench in a beautiful woods, who would you like sitting next to you on the bench and why? My doggie Dexter. He’d be able to appreciate the setting quietly with me, and we could cuddle and I could just enjoy his big doggie smile. Little slice of paradise right there, if you ask me.

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This guy just loves the woods.

 

 

 

7. Are you sunrise, daylight, twilight, or night? Please share why you picked your time of day? Twilight.  Everything’s winding down and the blinding sun is going away.  Good time to relax with a book and some tea.

8. If you could choose your age forever, what age would you choose and why? Gosh, that’s hard.  In the past, I answered this question with “eight”, because that was by far my favorite year of life so far, because it was so happy and carefree with little responsibilities.  At the same time, there are some fun things about adulthood that I’d miss out on if I were eight forever.  Maybe 28?  Still young enough to not look silly doing “young” things, but still old enough to have experienced some of what life has to offer, mature enough to be married and have kids, and I’d be old enough to drink and rent a car and all that good stuff.

9. If you could be in the movie of your choice, what movie would you choose and what character would you play? Not a lot of people have heard about this movie, but I’d be in Camp Nowhere, playing the role of Gaby.  Everyone just looked like they had a blast shooting this movie, and then I’d also get to cozy up with Jonathan Jackson.  Not too shabby.  🙂

10. If you could meet any historical figure, who would you choose and why? Ben Franklin.  After reading his autobiography many years back, I’ve been fascinated with him.  He had many great ideas and inventions that I’d love to just introduce him to the modern world and see what he thinks about it.  Can you imagine how much his mind would be blown by computers?!?

To a Life Full of Imagination!!!!

Violet

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Friend Makin’ Monday: Let’s Try This Again

…meaning two things:

  1. The goal of posting every day this week (as you can see, that didn’t pan out AT ALL last week.  Bad Violet.)
  2. A “Would You Rather?”-themed Friend Makin’ Monday

FMM

If you’ve taken part in Friend Makin Mondays before then you are familiar with the rules. If you’re new, please take a moment to answer this week’s question on your own blog then add your link in the comments section at Losing Weight and Having Fun so we can all see your FMM questions and answers. Please invite your blog readers to add their links here too so everyone has to opportunity to be seen. The idea is to connect with other awesome bloggers so take a moment to read and comment on a couple of other posts.

This week’s random questions come from Tyra at Random Acts of Snark. Thanks Tyra.

1. Would you rather go without television or fast food for the rest of your life? Fast food, hands down.  The cool thing about fast food is that there is a more luxurious counterpart.  Except for maybe French fries.  Croquettes, maybe?  And what, exactly, is “fast food”?  I don’t consider Red Robin fast food since it’s a sit down restaurant and there’s no drive through.  I would say anything with a drive through is fast food.  I can live without those. On the other hand, if you mean no RESTAURANTS in general for the rest of my life, I’d have to rethink that.  

 

2. Would you rather have permanent diarrhea or permanent constipation? Haha!  What a funny question.  I’d say constipation, because diarrhea gets so much more in the way of your day-to-day life.  You’d have to run to the bathroom because diarrhea can strike so suddenly.  And your tummy would be in so much pain all the time.  I don’t know how I’d be able to stand that.

 

3. Would you rather be handsome/beautiful and dumb or be ugly and really smart? The thing about dumb, beautiful people is that most of them end up being either celebrities or sexually taken advantage of.  I want neither.  I don’t want the paparazzi everywhere I turn, and I don’t think I even need to explain why I don’t want to be sexually taken advantage of. I want to be valued for more than my looks, so if I had to choose, let me have knowledge.  If all else fails, I suppose I could be so smart that I could invent a way for me to be pretty.  🙂

 

4. Would you rather be always be cold or always be hot? I prefer the winter to summer and when I get too hot I get cranky anyway, so always cold, without argument.  I love cold weather clothes much more than hot weather clothes anyway.  So that’s a bonus.

 

5. Would you rather be deaf or blind? I would much rather be Deaf, for sure.  I’m not gonna lie–I’m really biased when it comes to that, mostly because I took a few years of American Sign Language in high school and so I really respect the Deaf community. (Side note:  “deaf” is turning into one of those words where it looks like it’s spelled wrong when you write it over and over again.)  They can still very much be a functional part of society, even with their disability.  That’s not to say that the blind are incapable of contributing anything; it’s just I don’t know as much about them.  I also think Deaf people are better able to be independent–they can still get driver’s licenses (I don’t know if you knew that or not, but they can, because when it comes to driving, the only “hearing” obstacle that might be a problem is emergency vehicles, but they’re able to see the lights in their rearview mirrors), which I value very much.  I know people can get by without one, but I’ve grown attached to being able to take off wherever I want, whenever I want, and answering to nobody’s schedule but my own.  I also think American Sign Language is a beautiful language, and I wouldn’t mind being more immersed in it.

 

6. Would you rather eliminate hunger and disease or be able to bring lasting world peace? Wow, that’s a hard question.  This might be a “cheat” answer, but I believe that one of the myriad reasons we don’t have world peace right now have a great deal to do with hunger and disease.  I think these are more political/social/social wars than international wars, for sure, but they are “wars” nonetheless. So with that being said, I would say I’d want to bring about lasting world peace, LASTING being the operative word.  Living in a world with no war would be such a wonderful one to live in, and maybe when people don’t have enemies or war or riots or general hostile disagreement to worry about, maybe then they’ll start focusing on how to help their fellow human being and eliminate hunger and disease as a result.  Nice thought, right?

 

7. Would you rather be stranded on a deserted island alone or with someone you don’t like? Alone.  I’m an introvert at heart and I’d finally have the time to write and read as much as I’d like.  I’d probably make friends with the animals and they’d keep me company.  I mean, can you even imagine being stranded on a deserted island with Hitler?  Ick.  No thank you.

 

8. Would you rather see the future or change the past? This is going to be a confusing-sounding answer, but what the heck.  I would rather see the future, because I’d know what was coming, but I could make changes in my present to possibly change that future, which in a way is changing the past.  It would also be an easier way of just going with the flow, because you already know what’s in store.  And if it was possible to go way into my own future, I’d be able to answer the question of what happens after you die.  

 

9. Would you rather be three inches taller or three inches shorter? I’m already pretty short (5’4″), and three inches shorter would be 5’1″.  That’s a little too short for me.  Three inches taller wouldn’t be so bad, especially since my hubby’s 5’11” so I still wouldn’t have to worry about being taller than him.  Extra bonus if I could be three inches taller and the same weight, because then I’d have the illusion of having lost weight!  🙂

 

10. Would you rather wrestle a lion or fight a shark? Seeing as I can’t swim very well, I’d rather wrestle a lion.  At least with a lion I could at least try to outrun it.  And they’re furry and cuddlier than a shark.  😉 Hope you all have a fabulous week!  Stay tuned and keep your fingers crossed for me making my goal of posting every day this week!  I hope I can do it this time.

To Second Chances,

Violet

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Friend Makin’ Monday: Games & Hobbies

Time to get back into the swing of “reaching out” things!  I’ll just jump right into my longest-running link up so far.  This topic looks like so much fun! friend-makin-monday-for-post3-300x179 If you’ve taken part in FMM then you know the rules. If you’re new, please take a moment to answer this week’s question on your own blog then add your link in the comments section at Losing Weight and Having Fun so we can all see your FMM questions and answers. Please invite your blog readers to add their links here too so everyone has to opportunity to be seen. The idea is to connect with other awesome bloggers so take a moment to post your own FMM post and comment on a couple of other posts. Now it’s time for this week’s topic!

Hobbies and Games

1. Do you have a favorite board game? Oh goodness.  Must I choose one?  I have so many that I love!  Right now I’m digging Dominion (does that count more as a board game or card game?  I’m calling it a board game).  I also love Clue, Settlers of the Stone Age (as opposed to Settlers of Catan), and The Farming Game (that one’s a little less-well-known).  When I was a kid, I loved the game of Life and Girl Talk.  Anyone else remember Girl Talk?     2. Do you have a favorite card game? I’m going to add to the love for Cards Against Humanity, but right now my favorite card game is Anomia.  I LOVE that game.  If you guys haven’t heard of it, check it out.  A good friend of mine and I get pretty competitive when we play; it’s pretty hilarious. 3. Do you play games on your phone? I have a “dumb phone”, which means there are no apps or Internet connection like a smart phone has.  Therefore, no games.  I dabbled a bit with Robot Unicorn and Angry Birds on the hubby’s phone, though.

“Always, I wanna be with you, and make believe with you, and live in harmony, harmony, harmony, ohhhh loooovvveee…”

4. Do you prefer the x-box, playstation or wii? For sure the Wii.  I feel like it has the least violent and most whimsical games out of the three gaming systems.  It’s also the easiest controller to figure out for me.  🙂  I actually use the Wii Fit scale often to weigh myself in.  Oh, and I actually exercise on it.  😉  I’m always going to be loyal to Nintendo, for sure. 5. Do you have a favorite outdoor hobby? I like snowshoeing (anything in the snow, actually), walking my doggie, and roller skating.  NOT rollerblading, mind you–old school, two-wheels-in-front-two-wheels-in-back, brake in front, roller SKATING. Product Details 6. Have you ever been geocaching? No I haven’t, but I’ve always wanted to!  I did some research, though, and apparently there are a few near my town.  I’m totally gonna do it!

7. What’s your favorite hobby? Writing and reading will always be my favorite hobby.  They’re like breathing air to me.

8. Is there a hobby you would love to try but are too scared too? Outdoor rock climbing.  I’ve done a few climbing walls and I’ve loved it, but I’m not sure how well I’d handle it once I got outside.  I might just try it out one day anyway.  Figure skating, too.

9. Do you enjoy doing puzzles? I do, but I’m horrible at them.  It’s a good way to pass the time and a good teamwork thing to do.  When I had roomies, we’d just leave a puzzle out on the coffee table and we’d work on it throughout the week.  That was fun.  I started a Christmas one with the hubby maybe 8 years or so ago that STILL isn’t done.  It’s left in our little inflatable “puzzle saver”.  Have you ever seen those?  They’re interesting-looking things…

10. Have you taken any classes in anything? I’m sure I have, but I honestly can’t remember any at the moment.  One day I would LOVE to take a cake decorating class!  Or sewing.  I did take sewing in home ec, but the boxers I made turned out horrible even though I tried SO HARD–one leg was shorter than another, the elastic was twisted, loose threads everywhere.  Disastrous.

To a Week of Fun and Games!  😉
Violet

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Written Word Wednesday: Crossroads (Daily Post Prompt)

From The Daily Post:

Life is a series of beginnings and endings. We leave one job to start another; we quit cities, countries, or continents for a fresh start; we leave lovers and begin new relationships. What was the last thing you contemplated leaving? What were the pros and cons? Have you made up your mind? What will you choose?

Photographers, artists, poets: show us CROSSROADS.

Isn’t it interesting how certain prompts come at just the right time?  This feels like one of those times.  Then again, I have the feeling that no matter what point of life I was at, this prompt would be appropriate.  People are always going through transitions, making decisions that create changes that are both big and small.

Right before I sat down to write this post, I replied to an email from a friend I hadn’t heard from in about three years.  We (actually I) reestablished contact about a month ago, and our subsequent back and forths, though slow to come, have been consistent.

I’m not gonna lie.  Those three years of no contact were rough.  This was a person whom I’ve considered one of my very best friends for over ten years.  To have a contact and confidant like that taken away can be quite the shock to system, and I was no exception.

That brings me to today’s prompt.

I’ve contemplated leaving the relationship, the attachment I had to this friend, leaving behind the memories of the past since they were too painful to recall.

One of the biggest strengths I think I possess, at least when it comes to my relationships, is that I’m fiercely loyal.  Sometimes, though, I’m loyal to a fault.  I stay loyal even when I’ve been hurt, long after the other person in the relationship remains loyal to me.  Perhaps it’s because I’ve moved so much in my life so I fight hard to have any semblance of a constant in my life, including relationships.  Maybe it was something I was taught–after all, my family comes with me everywhere and I remain loyal to them, even though we inevitably get on each other’s nerves.  Maybe loyalty is just in my nature–I give what I expect in return.

Unfortunately, I don’t always get that loyalty in return, and I feel as if that was the case in this friendship.  Somehow, somewhere along the line, distance took its toll and contact was broken.  Keep in mind, the friendship was long distance for years already, and that didn’t seem to cause problems in the past.  I don’t think it was really a transgression on anybody’s part; I just think laziness set in and there simply wasn’t enough care to keep in contact.  I’m guilty of the same when it comes to other friendships, I must admit, but I’ve been trying to make up for it.

Pros and Cons:  Ah, the ever-popular pro and con list.  I’ve been known to write pro-con lists many pages long, especially when it came to big decisions.  Weirdly enough, though, I didn’t write one for this particular big decision.  I think putting the words onto paper would make it real that I really thought hard about ending a relationship that had meant so much to me.  I just don’t think I was ready to face that quite yet.  But here I am, and here I go:

 PROS:

  1. The freedom of letting go and not allowing the situation hurt me any longer.
  2. Letting the other person move on with their life (which I don’t think I need to try so hard to do, as it seems as if they’ve moved on long ago).
  3. Learning that I’m strong enough to let go.

CONS:

  1. Pain.  Lots.
  2. The lingering knowledge of how I could’ve tried harder to save it, and feeling like maybe I failed.
  3. Not having that friend in my life anymore (again, not that this person is much a part of my life anymore anyway).

Have you made up your mind?  You know, every time I think I’ve made up the decision to leave, memories of how good the friendship was come and attack my mind, and my loyalty gives in and I can’t quite let go.  Horrible, isn’t it?

What will you choose?  I’ve chosen to work on reworking the relationship in a way that I’m not left disappointed.  This was largely inspired by the advice my hubby gave me when I told him how frustrated and hurt I was by the situation.  I’m learning to let go of any expectations, seeing any contact at all as a pleasant surprise.  And you know what?  It’s been working.  The sting of it all is slowly going away, and I’m keeping my propensity to care too much in check.  This makes for some highly impersonal emails from me, and that’s just going to have to be okay for the time being, and possibly even forever.  And if contact is lost again?  I will be thankful for the gift, and (try to) graciously let it go in love.

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I have so many other things I’m considering letting go, and maybe I’ll discuss them at a later time.  This was just the first thing that came to mind.  🙂

To Learning How to Let Go Gracefully,

Violet

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Ta-Da! Tuesday: Reaching Out, Linking Up, and Treating Myself

So I may be one of the few people on the planet who didn’t know the whole Parks & Rec “Treat Yo’ Self” reference until just a couple weeks ago.  I was talking to one of my friends, telling her that she should treat herself every now and then, and she promptly posted the video.  I am now sufficiently educated.  🙂

Anyhow, continuing with my “reaching out” theme for Lent, I’m doing a new Tuesday link up today with Becky at Olives ‘n’ Wine which completely revolves around the idea of treating yourself.

Treat Yourself Tuesday Badge
Here’s the deal if you’re interested in joining:

“Between now and Tuesday, do something nice for yourself. Wake up a few minutes early and enjoy a nice, hot cup of coffee before your hectic day begins. Take a bubble bath when you get home from work Monday evening. Spend some extra time stretching after your workout this weekend. Treat yourself to a cookie or some froyo this afternoon. Or maybe head out on a girls’ night this weekend.

Do whatever feels best for you. Do something that will make you feel relaxed and loved and happy. Remember this is about treating YOURSELF – not your friends, not your family, not your spouse, not your dog – so make sure you really focus on you. Treat yourself well and treat yourself often so that you will become the best you possible and in turn be your best for others in your life!

After you have your little treat yourself moment or moments (If you can sneak more than one in – go right ahead!) include my Treat Yourself Tuesday image on your Tuesday post, include a link back to ONW on your post, link up on my blog and check out how everyone else treated themselves!”

The treat yourself “theme”, if you will, has been treating yourself on a budget.  That’s so appropriate for me since we’ve drastically cut our already-sparse budget in order to be able to pay for our spring vacation.  Every treat I have is definitely considered a “budget” treat.  On the bright side, I think being on a budget makes all the treats all the sweeter!

Here’s What I Treated Myself to This Week!

1) Writing in my journal.  I’d made it a New Year’s goal (I don’t really make resolutions because they usually end up being broken) to write in my journal 10 minutes a day, but that never came to fruition.  I’d slacked for a good month or so and it felt good to just sit down with the snazzy new pens that the hubs gave me for Valentine’s Day and just treat myself to some writing therapy.  It was wonderful.

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This picture is actually from a couple years back, but you get the idea. 🙂

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Just a few of the colors of InkJoy pens I received for Valentine’s Day that I wrote with (I know it seems silly, but I totally DROOLED over these pens after I saw the commercial.  They’re WONDERFUL.  And they make me want a Spirograph again.)

2) A social road trip.  After the hubby and I moved in 2011, our hang out time with mutual friends became few and far between because they now lived an hour’s drive north of us.  We all lead busy lives and so it was difficult to be able to schedule time together.  This past weekend, in keeping with my “reaching out”, we spent time with some of our dearest friends, making stops at different friends’ places along the way.  It was great to be able to catch up.  We played board games and went out to lunch with some (it was one of their birthdays), then decided to pay a get well visit to a friend who had gotten a vicious car accident.  We enjoyed some good laughs and good food.

3) “Not everyday” food.  I made some sheep cupcakes for said friend’s birthday since he’s a big fan of sheep.  I’ll post pictures next.  We also went out to Red Robin and I had their bottomless fries with BBQ sauce and ranch.  At our other friend’s place, we brought some chips and salsa to munch on while we watched Shrek the Musical on Netflix.  Mind you, this isn’t food we have every day, so I indulged in the taste of it all.  I then promptly doubled up on my workout time for the following day, but the yumminess was SO so worth it!

Drooltastic.

4) Being silly.  So, speaking of abovementioned sheep cupcakes, this is what they were SUPPOSED to look like (from Martha Stewart’s Cupcakes book):
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Cute, fluffy sheep.

This is what ours turned out to look like:
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We started out trying to make it look like the picture, but after hilariously failing, we decided to have fun with it and make our “Island of Misfit Sheep”.  Of course I had to make a unicorn sheep.  We had an absolute blast.

Also, we decided to babysit for a friend at the last minute (hey, more reaching out! Score!) and had fun being silly and dancing along to the radio.  It was a big ol’ dance party and it was a wonderful treat for myself.  Then again, being silly is always a nice treat!  🙂

5) Staying up late to read (and finish!) a book.  Last time I was at the library, I decided to pick this young adult book up on a whim.  I ended up inhaling it and spending some nights staying up until 2AM, and I don’t regret it one bit.  It’s been awhile since a book has sucked me in that much, and I just finished it a few days ago.

It’s about a teen named Rosemary Goode and her journey to losing weight.  Of course it’s much more than that, but that’s the basic gist of it.  It was completely indulgent and required no thinking whatsoever, but fun nonetheless.  Being an English major, I treat myself to non-classic literature often.  It’s a lot of fun!

6) Creative projects.  Since we became homeowners, I’ve slacked off significantly in the crafting department.  I remember when I first started up this blog, I’d churn out one new Pinterest-inspired craft about once a week or so.  Over the weekend, I made a fun little 3-page collage card for the friend who’d gotten in a car accident:
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It reminded me of just how much I love doing these little collages.  I need to do more soon!

To Indulging in Life’s Little Pleasures!
Violet